The Perfect Guy

So many girls want to marry the ‘perfect’ guy. The list of the qualities of the ‘perfect’ man is endless. No matter how much girls preach that the perfect man doesn’t exist, they secretly harbor a secret fantasy about the perfect man. The only difference is that the list varies from one girl to other. Some of the most common traits that every girl has in her list are:

 V  Loyalty (That goes without saying)

 V  Good looks (even if you don’t have good looks, a little effort to appear your best is what girls want)

 V  Undying love (not “till death” but even after death. Come on, can’t we find someone like Landon from ‘a walk to remember’?)

 V  The ability to make her feel blessed (includes complimenting and paying constant attention)

 V  Dying for her (we dream at least once in our lifetime about a handsome guy dying for us)

The list goes on…. It also includes a bit of Christian Grey traits (but I am going to ignore that part).

The thing is, we usually look for someone who will have all these traits. We search for this perfect love we dream of. We search for it in the faces of strangers and friends. We hope to find one someday not knowing that our search is in the wrong direction.

The truth is that we already know some someone who is loyal and has loved you long before you were even born. He has promised you his unfailing love and has even died for you… 2000 years ago on the cross.

Once you run to him, you will never have to struggle with your insecurities again. You don’t have to walk on the streets with those uncomfortable clothes for the sake of attracting a guy. Why? Because, once you are filled with his love and wisdom, you will come to understand what really matters.

His beauty is far beyond comprehension. And he is the perfect prince for all of us. In him, you will find what you seek and through him you will find the man you are looking for in the human world. You don’t have to wonder anymore if your relationship will work out or whether he will pop the question. There will be no need to doubt about the ‘spark’ and 'communication’ dying out anymore. When God stands first in the relationship, he will take care and make it flourish.

Of course, to have a good man we will have to be a good woman ourselves. Stay tuned to God’s corrections to let you transform into a better person. There is no point in praying for a ‘Godly man’ when you haven’t found Christ yourself yet. Your prayers will be like a child banging on a piano. They will be heard but not listened.

Ruth lost her husband and was a young childless widow. Although she was a Moabite, she still obeyed her Israelite mother in law and did right in the eyes of the Lord. And look at how God rewarded her! She met a wonderful man who took care of her, married her and took away her disgrace.

To have that perfect man, let us strive to be worthy of such men. They do exist but only God knows where. The only way to find one is to let God stay in control. He will lead you to them at the right time. Until then, our duty is to focus on being a better Christian woman.

~Lilac Blossom